Building a senior single relationship on Older Dating Online

Don’t rush things on Older Dating Online. When you meet a single and start communicating just let the relationship progress naturally, don’t fast forward and push for more and this would apply to both, men and women. You don’t want to waste your time, I understand that, but if you’ve already made the determination that the single you have seen is  worth a first date, see where it goes for a bit before passing judgment.

Money is probably not a great date topic even if it’s really, really important to you! I got this text before a date. “If you don’t have a substantial retirement in place or big income, we will not be a match.”  Needless to say I was put off going on that date and blocked any further communication, as discussions about money should not be entered into until you trust the person and are happy to divulge such personal information. However, if money is hugely important, pre-screen your dates better.

Just as men shouldn’t talk about or expect sex too soon, women should appreciate that most of us male and female daters aren’t on a dating site solely to meet singles to hike with or take to the opera. When sex comes up, a frequent comment from forty plus daters goes something like, I’m not just going to jump into bed.” and that’s a good point. Waiting awhile is okay. The “friends first” mantra is common.  However if there is mutual attraction, at this stage of our lives, waiting a long time seems equally foolish.

Yes, there are often wide differences between men and women in the emotional attachment created by sex. Someone brilliant once said, “ single men sleep with women to see if there could be a relationship. Whereas forty plus women sleep with men because they believe there already is a relationship.”  This difference can be difficult to bridge and can lead to misunderstandings, but if you are ready for a relationship then intimacy is a progressive step.

Another misunderstanding can arise from the definition of controlling behaviour. Many women talk about the controlling behaviour of former dating partners. There is a big difference between decisive men who can take charge and be assertive, but when that crosses the line into controlling behaviour, it is always a bad thing.

Controlling is a bad thing. Be aware as a woman, that it can be a confusing aspect to most  single men. The standard for what is controlling changes, so that something that your date did one day that was just right somehow is too controlling when they do a similar thing two weeks later. I don’t have the answer apart from honesty and communication is key on dates. However picky and critical behaviour is a total relationship killer and being overly critical as well as controlling is death to any relationship at any stage.

Meet singles online for forty plus dates, when you are seeking companionship and mature friendship.

Sarah Hussey xx

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