Falling in love on Older Dating Online
The first few minutes after a great first date are heaven. Your heart strings are jumping and the whole world seems brighter and your smile is broad.
Every time you receive a message you feel alive and special. You try not to feel too excited and expectant but you can’t help how you feel.
Your heartstrings feel like they’re being plucked by a harpist that seems to be playing just for you. Twenty-four hours later, those heartstrings are being twanged by doubts and a lack of confidence that seems to haunt your every step. This is because you haven’t been contacted and you really thought that the date went well and you should have heard from them by now ! Were you too hopeful?
Your date hasn’t called you, and you haven’t called them, and the whole thing is very confusing. Have you got it all wrong and did you misread the signs of the date and are you just being over keen and silly. Is it time to contact them or are you back to looking for other daters on Older Dating Online. Have they been online?
When is it right to call or message? Is it right to message each other directly after a date, on the same day or night. As a single woman I always appreciate my date asking if I got home safely and I would usually thank my date for a great evening, so I feel that a message at the end of the date is a good way to end the date and lets the dater know that you had a good time.
Something like ‘I’m still smiling, thank you for a fun date.’ This type of light- hearted, message gives your date an opportunity to express their feelings or lack of them, so that you will know exactly where you stand with things going forward or not. At least it stops the confusion and wondering over the next few days.
It keeps the momentum going and puts the ball in your date’s court and means that you can establish if the contact is likely to continue. It is a fine balance to appear willing to meet again but not desperate. If you are smothered by messages and calls it can be off putting and make you feel uncomfortable. It is about creating a balance and being sensible. If it feels comfortable to you then it is likely to feel comfortable to your forty plus dater. You need to be natural and comfortable as that is who you are and if that doesn’t fit in with your dater then maybe they are not the right dater for you, which is a sign to look for someone else on Older Dating Online.