Dating when you are forty plus can be confusing, when to call, how often and then what to suggest and what to wear!. It can all be a bit daunting when you start forty plus dating online.
How can you turn an awkward first date with the forty plus person that you have been communicating with into a relationship or even a forty plus friendship.. Perhaps some ideas would help to move things in the right direction.
If you are struck by nerves and shaking like a leaf and nothing would settle your nerves more than a drink or two, resist the temptation, if you want to stay in control of the date and keep your forty plus date him interested then take it easy and don’t overindulge.
When you are in a settled forty plus relationship there will be time to indulge and let your hair down, but now is not the time, when you are on a first forty plus date.
Don’t continue the date at a different venue and this includes your place or their place. End the date where it started and don’t share intimate details of your life and gossip about friends and family and previous relationships. You barely know this person so keep the private things private for the time being. That includes face book details.
After a forty plus date don’t call them every day and inundate them with contact, if you have agreed to meet up and you have expressed an interest in seeing them and mentioned that you enjoyed the date, then there is no need to stalk them or badger them with calls and messages. It makes you look desperate and far too intense which can be really scary.
Get a life that doesn’t revolve around dating and if your date is interested they will certainly get in touch and if they don’t then you need to face up to the reality that they just weren’t that interested in the first place.
Do your own thing don’t make forty plus dating the only thing that interest you. Hang out with your friends, go for a meal with your sister, have drinks after work. Take it slowly and don’t rush into spending every evening looking for a new forty plus date.
Now you’re armed with these tips you should be feeling a little more confident about embarking on the roller coaster ride that is the forty plus online dating scene.
bad relationship you had in the past should stay exactly there, in the past. Give a new forty plus date the chance to prove themselves.
So, how many of the above tips will be helpful to you on your next forty plus dating adventure.? Half the fun is finding out, isn’t it?
Sarah Hussey xx