Calling all shy forty plus daters! Think your natural-born bashful tendencies are keeping you single? Think again. While you may sometimes feel anxious, and insecure when it comes to forty plus dating, the truth is that the right kind of forty plus dater will appreciate your unassuming ways. Here are some ideas to help ease your dating anxiety and help you ultimately on the way to a successful date.
If you’re a shy person, you’ll need to start projecting self-confidence when dealing with forty plus daters, even if you don’t fully feel it yet.
Keep in mind, confidence is different than bragging and boasting. A confident forty plus dater can comfortably make eye contact with a stranger, offer a friendly smile, and strike up a casual conversation without seeming phony or full of themselves.
If the idea of approaching a stranger feels overwhelming, take it slow and practice in general life before you are on a date. Then add a smile in a friendly manner . Practice makes perfect, so the more you put these new behaviors into practice, the more natural they’ll become. By the time you meet someone for a forty plus date, you’ll be ready, willing, and confidently comfortable.
Just as you should fake confidence and be positive and cheerful retrain your brain, you should also strive to become the best forty plus dater that you can be.
If that means joining a gym to lose a couple of pounds, splurging on a few stylish new wardrobe pieces that make you feel better about yourself, as singles will be drawn to forty plus daters who genuinely seem to like themselves without being boastful or arrogant.
Your interest in your dates life will be a refreshing change of pace from all the other self-absorbed daters they have met in the past. This interest makes you date feel interesting and allows them open up their world to you.
Instead of apologizing for being shy, embrace it, work with it, and be yourself.
Sarah Hussey xx