When you start older dating you might be feeling a little insecure and nervous and it seems like everyone is younger prettier and has a nicer smile and better hair.
You will need to avoid the comparison game and just focus on being the best older dater that you can be and happy in your own life.
Everyone is shows their best selves online and sometimes it is easy to compare our worst faults to their best features. It is important to realise that you are worthy and make sure you are happy in yourself so that you are not made to feel negative and lacking .
Forget about feeling inferior or lacking when you are older dating by getting out and doing things you love. Find a hobby, take up exercising, join a club, or attend a church, do things that you enjoy. When you’re happy with what you’re doing, you’re much less likely to worry about what someone else is doing.
Comparing yourself to others can be obviously detrimental, but so can comparing yourself to previous, idealized versions of yourself. How often have you looked in the mirror and compared what you see now, that you are older dating, to your taut, tanned high-school body? Instead of obsessing about how great the past was, remember all the things you’ve learned on your journey and focus on those.
Popular culture has self-esteem backwards: Feeling good about yourself isn’t necessary to make positive changes; rather, making positive changes will help you feel good about yourself. It will also make you and interesting forty plus dater to meet and to get to know and after all that is the whole point. Being happy and meeting happy positive forty plus daters.
Forty plus daters who think everyone else is smarter than they are may be feeling inadequate due to challenges at work and in life in general, which can be problematic when meeting daters online. However comparing yourself doesn’t have to be all negative. In fact, it can inspire you to make good changes. On the other hand, if you’re comparing something that you have no control over—your hairline, for example you are going to have to realise that there is little that you can do and move on. Remember all you can change is what you can control. Make changes to build to build your self-esteem, and then accept the things that you cannot change. Make the decision to have fun and meet older daters who can accept you for the wonderful worth while forty plus dater that you are.
Sarah Hussey xx