Even for the most fearless forty plus single first date nerves can be so bad that they prevent you from following through with actually meeting. We have to face the fact that dating can be nerve-wracking. There are ways to conquer those dating nerves and prepare yourself for a fabulous rendezvous.
Struggling with how best to present yourself in a truthful and honest way while still attracting attention in your online dating profile? Your online dating profile is very important as your first form of contact, so you need to make sure it is saying all the right things about you. Whether you’re a shrinking violet or a real livewire, there are lots of singles out there who will be interested in what you have got to offer.
If you’re battling with first date nerves or struggling for conversation starters, it pays to prepare yourself with a few simple interesting questions that will open up the conversation. This will help you to calm your nerves as you have a few ideas prepared rather than turning up a date with a blank sheet and nothing filling your head except a tongue tied jumble of thoughts. Taking a little time out to prepare before the first can pay dividends and will help you stay calm and collected, so you can really put your best foot forward on your first forty plus date
Where do you go for a first date? What to wear? My advice would be to choose a place that you are familiar with and that you are happy to spend a couple of hours chatting. I would suggest meeting up for a drink rather than a long protracted meal so that if the first date doesn’t work out you can leave after the first drink rather than being stuck in a situation that is not making you comfortable for a meal .
Make sure that you are responsible for your own travel arrangements and have enough money to pay your share of the bill.
Sometimes, it can be difficult to know what to say on a first forty plus date, even if you have been communicating online before hand, but listening to what your dating partner has to say can be important. Your dates tone and thought process can become very evident when they are making general conversation. If their conversation makes you feel uncomfortable and if they seem very bitter about past relationships, then you will need to judge for yourself if they are going to be loaded down with baggage that you might not need in your life at this time.
Positive and friendly with a happy genuine smile is the way to go and wearing comfortable flattering clothes that make you feel special and well groomed and relaxed is the way to go when dressing for any date but especially a first date. So go ahead and make that date and enjoy the adventure.
Sarah Hussey xx