Every year many forty plus singles look for romance and a long term relationship online. Searching for a committed long term relationship that will be full of friendship, joy, and love that will carry them forward to their final days on this earth.
Perhaps, it doesn’t work out that way for some forty plus people. Some marriages fail, either ending in divorce and separation. Married couples seem to be divorcing at unprecedented rates. These divorcees can be the children of the broken marriages. Is each unhappy family unhappy in its own way, or do the miserable marriages all share something toxic in common?
If you are a forty plus couple who shows signs of being in fight-or-flight mode in your relationship. Is having a conversation with your dating partner a game of one up manship and does your emotion body language look like a competition and an effort to get the better of each other. Does your conversation with your forty plus partner look like a face off on a wild west movie. None of these signs are a good sign in a relationship.
What makes forty plus relationships work? What enables a forty plus couple to build and maintain a loving, healthy relationship.?
When you feel calm and connected together, this translates into warm and affectionate behaviour, and this creates a feeling of trust and intimacy that makes both forty plus daters more emotionally and thus physically comfortable.
Small connections between the couple over hobbies and activities are important and if both partners acknowledge the importance of each other’s hobbies this can be an important relationship builder. This sign of interest or support is an important form of connection, however momentarily. Belittling a partner’s hobby or interest shows a form of disrespect and disinterest and breaks down a relationship.
These communication joining interactions have a profound effect on forty plus relationship well-being. Couples who have an interest in their partners interests and hobby are joined together in mind and spirit and are meeting their partner’s emotional needs. Do you bring kindness and generosity; or contempt, criticism, and hostility into your dating relationship?
Are you building a culture of respect and appreciation into your relationship.? Contempt is the number one factor that tears couples apart.
Forty plus people who are focused on criticizing their partners miss the positive things their partners are doing and they see negativity when it’s not there. People who give their partner the cold shoulder by deliberately ignoring the partner or responding minimally will damage the relationship by making their partner feel worthless and invisible, as if they’re not there, not valued. And people who treat their partners with contempt and criticize them not only kill the love in the relationship, but they also kill off the ability to fight off viruses and cancers. Being mean is the death knell of relationships and this kind of critical environment can seriously affect your health and well being.
Meet positive charming forty plus dates and don’t put up with critical people, your health depends on it.
Sarah Hussey xx