As a single forty plus dater, what are your thoughts about deal breakers in the forty plus relationship?
Just to be clear on what a deal breaker actually is….
They are qualities a prospective forty plus partner has that you can not live with or they are qualities a partner must have to be in a relationship with you.
Both men and women have deal breakers when it comes to dating, however the difference between the sexes is men honor their deal breakers.
You’ll see this when a man stays in a relationship with a woman for years and years, yet he won’t marry her.
In his mind, she has a deal breaker that isn’t suitable for marriage.
We as forty plus women have a tendency to be more tolerant when it comes to our deal breakers.
We think with a little work and a lot of love, we can change him and all will be well in our world. That is never going to happen.Men don’t change unless they want to change.
If this is the case, you have ignored one of your deal breakers, you aren’t honoring yourself and you will be settling. Many women choose to settle… They are fooling themselves that they cannot find a man without settling. They feel that they need a man to be complete.
There are an abundance of men out there for you as a forty plus women, to date so you don’t have to settle. You also don’t need a man to complete you. You are complete.
Now, let’s take a moment and talk about some common deal breakers worth thinking about.
If you have a beloved pet in your life, then you’ll want a man who’ll treasure your “baby” like you do.
Smokers , if you don’t smoke then smoking is going to be a deal breaker in future relationships.
Religion Do you need a forty plus man in your life who can share your religious beliefs, going to church or temple with you on a regular basis?
Differences in sexual behavior — Whether it’s a full-blown Fifty Shades of Grey forty plus relationship you desire, or sex once a year on your birthday.
Money issues and differences — Do you want him to pay for everything? Or can he be financially responsible for just his side?
Take some time to clear your head when you start forty plus dating and really think about the specifics of your relationship requirements and what you need and want in a relationship because if you don’t get it straight things that you skip over at the start will become major conflicts in your relationship at a later date.
It’s better to know what your deal breakers are before you get too far into a new relationship.
Take a few moments and write your own deal breaker list.
As you get to know each other refer back to this list to see if your date has the qualities it takes to be with you. If a healthy long-term relationship is what you really desire in your life, then you’ll want to choose a forty plus dater who doesn’t have the deal breakers you’ve put on your list.
Sarah Hussey xx