There’s a hidden key to getting a forty plus man to melt for you and fall for you, and it’s a lot easier than you might imagine when you are dating.
But there are two sides to dating and that is you also need to be aware that you need to appreciate him. This can be the single biggest mistake that is made when forty plus daters start exploring the dating scene.
I’m not talking about casual compliments on looks. Those don’t really do much other than artificially pump up egos.
The key is to discover the hidden, little known fact that they are proud of that is not immediately obvious as it will come as a surprise. When someone hears a compliment about something all the time, they stop registering the compliments after a while.
Perception about a quality that is not immediately apparent shows that you have thought about your date and you have taken the trouble to dig a bit deeper. This shows care and appreciation.
So when you see that they have chosen some nice jeans, or a fashionable shirt, let them know about it. One of the best things you can do is to give them a dose of affirmation. Making someone feel needed and appreciated is touch that is needed on Older Dating Online when you are looking for romance and love when forty plus dating.
The balance can change after you have become intimate as this is when a forty plus man starts to feel comfortable and he may feel that he doesn’t have to try any more, where as a forty plus woman feels that she has invested a lot and she doesn’t want to break or damage the relationship in any way.
This balance shift can feel a bit confusing at times, so a forty plus woman needs to maintain the status quo by not investing her all into the relationship by giving up time for herself and time with her long term friends and family.
Forty plus men need to appreciate that they still have a lot at stake and that just because their forty plus partner has agreed to share their bed it is not an contract that allows people to be taken for granted as the relationship can soon grow sour and break-up.
The key to a happy forty plus relationship is care and appreciation of each other and to treat each other as you would like to be treated.
Sarah Hussey xx