So you have been communicating online with a forty plus daters and you felt that things were going well and then without any reason that you are aware of they just don’t reply to your message. What do you do now?
Until you meet someone face to face, it’s a lot easier to be rude or dismissive of people online and to act in a way that you never would in a face to face situation. As a result, we live in an age of passive rejection. Sometimes it can be easier to simply leave a message unanswered rather than admitting that you don’t want to take things further.
We tend to behave differently when we are communicating online. While some forty plus daters will only communicate with daters who we feel we have something in common with, while others just continue to message daters who they really feel they are not interested in and then they don’t know how to get out of the communication other than just blocking or stopping the communication altogether. I suppose they feel it is just easier to just stop replying.
You need to keep in mind that not every single dater will behave the way you do, so just because someone is chatting to you, it doesn’t mean that they feel the same way that you do.
While some of us check our inbox and reply promptly to every message, others might not visit as regularly. However you can see if the forty plus dater you have been communicating with has been online and if they haven’t replied then it would seem obvious that they are not intending to, so it would seem pointless to pursue the communication.
If they intended to reply they would. If they don’t answer, move on with your dating search to other daters. It might sound harsh but be realistic here.
Talking to a number of dating people will also mean that you fixate less on one particular forty plus dater. That way you can be a bit more relaxed and casual when they’re messaging you, more like you would react if a friend were to communicate with you. Being friendly and relaxed and not building the forty plus dater up in your head. Remember you don’t know this person. Stop yourself from messaging this one forty plus person too much and once you’ve established that there’s a connection, agree to meet on a first date that’s when the excitement could really start. Good luck!
Sarah Hussey xx