Do you need a confidence boost when you consider forty plus dating online? Do you have the confidence for online dating ?
If you have been communicating online and feel that a first date is the next step but you are feeling anxious about how it will go and what to expect. First dates are exciting, but can make even the most self confident forty plus dater feel a little nervous.
Your date starts as from the time you agree to meet. Choosing the locality is important. Somewhere easy to get to for both of you, possibly somewhere simple and familiar is always the best option.
Dressing to be stylish and comfortable for the occasion is important.
All of these aspects increase your self confidence as you will feel more in control if things are familiar and comfortable and then you will have less to worry about when you are on the actual date.
Chose an outfit that you feel you look good in and that suits your body shape and personality. This will make you feel attractive and allow you to shine and relax.. That way you’ll know how good you look and you will feel so much more confident.
The same goes for personal grooming, a good hairstyle , and a nice aftershave or perfume can make a huge difference. All of these things will stand you in good stead and will also show that you are taking the trouble to appear at your best for a forty plus date.
When you start to feel nervous try to imagine a successful first date.
Imagine yourself laughing and having a good time. Fill your mind with positive thoughts and feelings. Push the negative fearful thoughts aside and be positive and allow yourself to feel enchanting while you are online dating. Your first date will also be feeling the pressure of meeting someone new and will be having the same uncertain feelings.
Once you understand that a first date is just a conversation with a person, then the first date nerves become much easier to handle.
If you are not naturally confident, think of yourself as a self confident person and try to listen more than speaking, ask interested questions and listen to the answers with interest and make eye contact in a friendly relaxed manner. Pretend that you’re outgoing and in control and, chances are, no-one will think anything different.
A first date is an opportunity to find out all about them too. Turn your attention to them and you’ll soon forget to be self-conscious. The best way to do this is to plan some interesting questions in advance. You could ask them to tell you about the best holiday they’ve ever taken. The more special you make them feel, the more likely it is that they’ll relax and want to spend more time with you.
The secret to appearing self confident on a first date is just to try to relax and enjoy the companionship and the dating experience. If things don’t go entirely to plan, then at least you will have had an opportunity to get out of your normal routine and if you do decide to see each other again then you will naturally be more self-assured and comfortable on other dates.
Sarah Hussey xx