When a forty plus woman is dating online, she my start to feel that she is in a waste land for forty plus daters and condemned to be alone for the rest of her life.
There are problems specific to being a single forty plus woman and dating. Many women of this age feel that they have become invisible to men and are overlooked by the fashion industry, while three-quarters of women in their 60s believed they had lost their identity by being labelled as someone’s Mum.
Women and men are living longer and fitter lives; the average age at which we divorce is rising. Many people get divorced in their forties now. There is a new demographic of confident and experienced forty plus single women, at their sexual peak who would like to find a partner.
But life, friendship and love for the single forty plus woman has its own particular complications and sorrows.
Online dating sites mean that forty plus men have the pick of the age range. They are also much more in a rush to get into a new sexual relationship and are much less likely to give someone a second chance, which may seem callous but they are much more likely to fall in love quickly. For forty plus men, it’s a case of you meet the criteria, let’s buy the double duvet.
Forty plus women are more cautious, especially if they have been hurt in past relationships. That doesn’t mean that they do not have the same sexual desires that forty plus men experience. It is just that they expect them to develop and mature at a slower pace.
It’s a shame that forty plus men aim for the younger women online because women of forty plus are arguably much more sexually mature and able to give a lot more pleasure than, a younger woman.
When you are dating within the same age group you also look more compatible and your experiences in life also match and are more compatible.
After all when you get older the years will show more and the younger woman might not be willing to be in a relationship with a man that looks so much older than herself. A younger woman may also feel that she would like children of her own and that might not be something that a man in his forty plus years will be looking to invest in.
Forty plus dating within your age group has many advantages for both parties, so choosing a date who is several years your junior may not be all it is cracked up to be.
Sarah Hussey xx