Sometimes attendance at a friend’s wedding cannot be avoided. Maybe it’s your sister or best friend’s big day and you know that your relationship would be irrevocably damaged if you didn’t attend.
But there are other weddings that don’t carry the same importance and you don’t need to feel obligated to go.
Turning down an invitation to wedding that you don’t have an emotional connection to will leave you with more energy when it comes to attending the weddings that really do matter.
Being a forty plus single in wedding season can feel terrible. It’s hard not to feel acutely alone when you’re surrounded by happy couples and if you are trying to get over a broken relationship or marriage it can be a painful experience.
Acknowledge that pain and those heartfelt emotions.
Allow yourself time to let loose and act completely immaturely about the whole situation. Spend an evening eating ice cream and listening to meaningful music and having an emotional release.
You may feel bitter and emotional if your marriage ended badly so treat yourself well and give yourself some you time.
Wedding invitations can be expensive. There’s the hotels, transport, new outfits, gifts and it soon adds up. So, why not treat yourself too?
Sometimes a spot of retail therapy can provide that all-important pick-me-up that gets you through the wedding. Maybe that new pair of shoes will help you stand tall or a trip to the hairdresser before hand, could be your reward for going to what could be a difficult social engagement.
Make your own celebration. Gather your friends and go away for the weekend or plan a fun evening out, just for the sake of it. Dress up, take lots of photos, and enjoy being a single forty plus dater with an exciting future ahead of you.
Don’t forget the day is designed to be fun, for all the guests! Treat it as you would any party. Enjoy the food, treat yourself to an extra slice of cake, and hit the dance floor .
Never forget that being in a relationship has its ups and downs, just like being single. ’ There’s no better opportunity to meet new forty plus people and spend quality time getting to know them as you are at the wedding for at least four or five hours. You never know, you could end up finding lasting love and you don’t even need to catch the bouquet!
Sarah Hussey xx