The idea of having a first date is to establish communication, negotiation, and a level playing field so that you can have a good time on your first date and find out if there is enough of a joint attraction for a second date.
One of the first things to consider when planning a date with another forty plus dater safety. In a perfect world, you wouldn’t have to worry about this. Unfortunately, we don’t live in a perfect world.
So while planning your first date, you should make sure that whatever you’re doing won’t endanger your or your date’s personal safety.
Personal safety on a date includes both physical safety and the ability to relax and feel comfortable and feel safe.
In terms of physical safety, it is important to have a reliable form of transportation to and from the location? You should also ensure that friends and family know where and when you are going and when you expect to be back.
The location should be well populated and not isolated. You and your date should agree on a venue you both feel happy with and this is usually some where in the middle of respective abodes.
It’s not just about whether you and your date are out and the discussion of where to meet and what activity you both agree on. It’s also a matter of how comfortable someone is with physical intimacy, especially on a first date. Consent is necessary, even in minor matters of physical intimacy like holding hands.
A discussion of the type of public displays of affection are acceptable to both daters.
Someone might be comfortable with holding hands, but not with kissing. It is important that both forty plus daters feel comfortable at all times.
A date should be fun, and it won’t be unless your personal comfort is respected.
Make sure that both of you have an equal hand in planning the date. You can use this opportunity to get to know your date better! Suggesting information about restaurants you’ve always wanted to try, favourite movies, and locations you like to visit.
Sarah Hussey xx