When you first start forty plus dating meeting for a coffee rather than a dinner date can be less intimidating. There is less time pressure to fit into what may be a tight schedule and if you really realise early on there is no chemistry then it easier to leave after an hour.
After several people I knew suggested online dating to meet forty plus daters I joined the online dating game.
It can be quite daunting at first, writing your online dating profile with enough conviction that you really are a great catch whilst trying to avoid sounding like an egotistical over confident bragger.
The trick is to show enough self confidence to describe what you are looking for in a date without having a shopping list and being brutal.
You will have an idea of what you and wanting in a date but being realistic is important while being honest enough to not agree to meeting forty plus daters you would ultimately have no interest in.
Of course there are the obligatory be safe and let a trusted friend know where you are going and who you are meeting and don’t do anything you are not comfortable with .Then get ready for the adventure.
Forty plus online dating gives you the opportunity to get to know the other forty plus daters better before actually agreeing to a date.
With all the information that’s on their dating profile it’s easy to get communication going, even if you are shy and unsure about dating again.
Possibly you don’t have the confidence to chat to strangers so you joined because it’s way of meeting new forty plus people. So communicating with other forty plus daters who aren’t your normal type could open up a whole new dating world for you.
Be prepared for being let down, it happens in life and it will happen online too. Dust yourself off and start again.
This is your time in life to be selfish. However that doesn’t mean not paying your share of the bill.
A simple “we just grew apart” will do when the subject of the `ex’ comes up. Leave the rest for later if there is a later.
Don’t expect a ready made relationship, the reality is that you are still basically meeting as two strangers. Embrace the forty plus dating experience enjoy the attention and make the most of getting out and about.Enjoy it, and have fun!