Wondering how to move on? If you’re finding it difficult to let go of an ex and move forward with your new forty plus life-style, then perhaps some ideas could help you
Letting go of an ex can be one of the biggest struggles when trying to heal from a past forty plus relationship. No matter how many times you turn to positive quotes on Instagram, delve into self-help books, or try your best to listen to friends’ advice, it can be hard for anything to really stick, when you are struggling with forty plus heart-break.
Firstly be kind to yourself and have empathy and compassion for yourself and be don’t feel pressured by a time scale. The point is to heal and grow and that can take time and commitment.
Letting go of an ex is much like mourning the loss of someone. In some ways, it can be likened to the death of a forty plus relationship.
Grief, in all its forms, isn’t the same for every forty plus dater.
There are countless theories on ‘how long it takes to move on from an ex’ but there isn’t a time formula. It depends on the relationship and the individual. So, if you feel okay one day and terrible the next or can’t quite see how to move on some days, don’t beat yourself up, it is about being a normal emotional forty plus person.
When considering how to move on, having something practical to do can help. Decluttering your environment can really help your state of mind. Spend some time clearing out your space, making way for the new exciting life-style that is to follow.
It might be tough to let them go but if you still have any of your ex’s belongings, pictures, phone numbers, cards and social media information they will all be constant reminders preventing you from moving on with your new forty plus experiences.
Writing out your thoughts and feelings is a great way to better interpret what’s going on in your head. Making a daily journal can help you get to the core of how you are doing and how you feel and it can be a great emotional release.
Ultimately, letting go of your ex is your decision. It’s a decision that you must make day after day after day. It doesn’t mean ignoring your feelings or refusing to feel and show emotion. It just means that you accept what you’re feeling but are choosing a more empowering, positive thought that’s aligned to moving forward., from victim to victor.
It’s important to have people you can talk to. Whether that be family, a colleague, therapist or coach or another forty plus friend. Someone who you trust. Talking is a great way to release your emotions and feel supported.
Here’s to creating new space, memories for this next stage of your life. This isn’t about seeing radical change in a matter of days it is about growing on a day by day basis.
Sarah Hussey xx