Dating through an online service is a safe experience, safer than meeting a single dater who you know nothing about at a pub or event, but with the rush of excitement it’s sometimes easy to forget to keep it safe and take common sense precautions.
You think you have met the date of your dreams or maybe you’re just curious but you’ve agreed to meet. You may be a veteran dater or maybe returning to dating after a long term relationship has ended but here are some quick words of advice for meeting up for a first date.
Don’t feel that you have to be in a hurry to meet for a date and certainly don’t give over your personal contact details unless you are comfortable to do so. Your contact details are kept private and there is never a rush for you to divulge anything when you are meeting dates. Never give out your home or office address unless you are totally confident that you know and can trust your date.
Avoid any single who talks about sex or finances before you have even met them. Be wary of anyone who declares undying love for you too readily especially if you have not even met them.
When you meet a single for those first few dates, after communicating online, choose a neutral public location that is easily accessible to you both and is within view and hearing distance of other people. Tell someone that you trust who you are meeting a single dater for a first date and where you are going and what time you plan to be there. If your plans change don’t forget to provide an update. All these are simple and easy to follow and arrange standard security measures that make sense for any dating single to follow wherever you are going and who you are meeting. In fact it is also a good idea to tell a trusted friend the online identity of the persion you are meeting. Trust your instincts, if you think something is wrong, you should politely make an excuse and leave.
Never rely on your date for transport to or from your meeting place, especially plan your journey home in case you need to leave unexpectedly. Avoid letting your date know your address. Remember, no matter how well you are getting on with your first date, this person is still a virtual stranger , so avoid showing your date exactly where you live and be careful with alcohol so that you keep your wits about you. If you think your food or drink has been tampered with then don’t consume it.
Make sure you have a fully charged phone with enough minutes. This is an essentially no matter where or when you are going out and dating is no acceptation to this safety rule. Be considerate to your dates concerns too and respect that your date may have the same concerns about dating and don’t push them into doing anything they are not comfortable with.
Meeting forty plus daters is fun and convenient, however being street smart and cautious needs to be a consideration at any stage of life and online dating is no exception to that common sense rule.
Sarah Hussey xx