“I am fundamentally an optimist . . . Part of being optimistic is keeping one’s head pointed toward the sun, one’s feet moving forward. There were many dark moments when my faith in humanity was sorely tested, but I would not and could not give myself up to despair.”
— Nelson Mandela, “Long Walk to Freedom”
Unfortunately the bully wins.
At least temporarily. When a bully has his day and seems omnipotent, it’s easy to feel lost and discouraged. One may experience resignation, anxiety, despondency, fear and anger and even depression as a forty plus dater after break-ups.
Life might seem very unfair.
However ultimately you have control over your life and you can take back control after break ups and even after a period where you seem to have been getting the short end of the stick of the forty plus dating scene.
As a forty plus dater you need to take care of yourself. Bullies win when your self confidence is low and things always seem worse when you are not feeling great about yourself.
When the latest relationship with a forty plus dater is not looking so favourable and you are feelings as though you are feeling that forty plus dating is just not for you, then don’t listen to more negative news on the TV and internet. Go for a walk, exercise, drink camomile tea and water.
Get lots have sleep, eat healthy, and unwind and recharge. Importantly, connect with loved ones who can offer encouragement and support. Don’t let other people bad vibes influence you and change your kind heart into bitterness. Remain positive and be kind to others and your forty plus dating will come together in time.
“Be the change that you wish to see in the world.”
Sarah Hussey xx